We’ve had new curtains, thicker and cosy for the colder months. The woman who made them came to hang them, her third visit over the past four months.
“How are you getting on with things? How are you progressing?” Friendly, interested, an innocent enquiry. Yet her questions left me stumped – for a moment, on the spot, feeling the pressure of a meaningful reply.
For how am I getting on with things? It’s not like I don’t ask myself this question – probably more often than I need. Yet when I do, it is with the overlay of assessment, shades of a “performance review”.
In our achievement driven world, we readily fall into the trap of only paying attention to the external stuff. The outcomes that are visible and measurable. Those things we may write in a plan or on a list. That are easy to share with someone who asks – how’s it going, what are you doing?
What about the progress that cannot be seen? That’s inside, under the covers. That is rarely the outcome of something we set out to do.
When the curtains were done and I sat to reflect on Rachel’s questions, I expanded my view. To take in all that is progressing.
The research and learning that is happening – in my mind and through action.
Adapting to a new physical environment. And all this means. The geography, the climate – embracing the new ways to spend my time. Receptive to the influences of nature here.
Connections made. New people and contacts. Connections between my past experiences and what’s around me now. Connecting ideas and people, seeing linkages – in readiness for activity.
The courage to allow this process of evolution and discovery – to give myself time and space.
Relating. Being present and available for friends and family.
Commitment to daily practices of meditation and reflection quietly compound and expand my awareness. Building my capacities and capability.
Integrating all that is new…
All this too is the progress of life. It often cannot be measured. It often goes unacknowledged. Yet it underlies everything else – weaving our experiences like an intricate tapestry.
In the words of Albert Einstein:
"What counts can’t always be counted; what can be counted doesn’t always count."
Take some time today and reflect. What counts for you? That maybe can’t be seen or counted.
To what extent do you recognise all that is progressing in your life?
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